Going from a friendship to a relationship is a stiutation that I have been in and I have to say that I would not repeat it. I knew a woman as a friend for a couple of years and then one night we just crossed the line and we were lovers.
It was really strange for me because it felt like I had taken a relative to bed or something. It got easier as time passed, but the next thing she finished the relationship just cos her sister didn't approve of her dating a white guy. It left me hurt and a little shaken.
It took over two years to see her face to face and also to be just friends again, but we did stay as friends. One of the reasons why we did is because we had a good frienship previously. Several years later we were out and she expressed an interest for us to get back but I declined because I knew that it wouldn't work again.
Friends should stay as friends because if there isn't any intimacy between a man and a woman there is an air of mystery between them and that is quite exciting. Once they become lovers then that is lost and for me I like the air of mystery of having a female friend.
I have learnt a lot from this experience to know that I would never ever date a female friend again.
Whenever I meet a woman I let things take their natural course and I don't think about whether she will be a friend or future wife from our meetings because as time passes it will all be known. If love blossoms over time then it will and if it doesn't ....Then it doesn't! It is as simple as that. Going into a relationship with your eyes open is the best way to see these things because anything is possible and we should all be open to anything that passes our way.
Taking things at face value is the best line of approach, because if we expect too much too soon from a person then we leave ourselves wide open to unnecessary problems further on. It is so important to let the relationship develop and grow at a steady pace rather than to simply want eveything at once.
We are here for a short time so we should make the best of what we have and to do that we need to take our time to get it right. If we rush then we end up right back where we started, so what would be the point of that?
Going from a friendship to a relationship is a stiutation that I have been in and I have to say that I would not repeat it. I knew a woman as a friend for a couple of years and then one night we just crossed the line and we were lovers.
It was really strange for me because it felt like I had taken a relative to bed or something. It got easier as time passed, but the next thing she finished the relationship just cos her sister didn't approve of her dating a white guy. It left me hurt and a little shaken.
It took over two years to see her face to face and also to be just friends again, but we did stay as friends. One of the reasons why we did is because we had a good frienship previously. Several years later we were out and she expressed an interest for us to get back but I declined because I knew that it wouldn't work again.
Friends should stay as friends because if there isn't any intimacy between a man and a woman there is an air of mystery between them and that is quite exciting. Once they become lovers then that is lost and for me I like the air of mystery of having a female friend.
I have learnt a lot from this experience to know that I would never ever date a female friend again.
Whenever I meet a woman I let things take their natural course and I don't think about whether she will be a friend or future wife from our meetings because as time passes it will all be known. If love blossoms over time then it will and if it doesn't ....Then it doesn't! It is as simple as that. Going into a relationship with your eyes open is the best way to see these things because anything is possible and we should all be open to anything that passes our way.
Taking things at face value is the best line of approach, because if we expect too much too soon from a person then we leave ourselves wide open to unnecessary problems further on. It is so important to let the relationship develop and grow at a steady pace rather than to simply want eveything at once.
We are here for a short time so we should make the best of what we have and to do that we need to take our time to get it right. If we rush then we end up right back where we started, so what would be the point of that?
