Some one please tell me why when a woman gets a good man... I mean a real keeper... she then changes her mind... do most women know what they really want in a man?
Some one please tell me why when a woman gets a good man... I mean a real keeper... she then changes her mind... do most women know what they really want in a man?
where are all the good men? When the fire gets hot they're ready to bail.Stick it out sometimes ,let's get to the silver anniversary. I know what I want, R.e.s.p.e.c.t.
where are all the good men? When the fire gets hot they're ready to bail.Stick it out sometimes ,let's get to the silver anniversary. I know what I want, R.e.s.p.e.c.t.
why have you decided to hide from this site? you ask a question and hide who you are, so how is one to know what you have to offer aside from the question?
ohhh wondrous 4BMO, check your calendar... McG started this well over a year ago and aside from possibly wandering through the hallways unnoticed (pic would be up in that case..) more than likely still on hiatus judging from the coastal shot.... sand between the toes..... one of a kind....
why have you decided to hide from this site? you ask a question and hide who you are, so how is one to know what you have to offer aside from the question?
ohhh wondrous 4BMO, check your calendar... McG started this well over a year ago and aside from possibly wandering through the hallways unnoticed (pic would be up in that case..) more than likely still on hiatus judging from the coastal shot.... sand between the toes..... one of a kind....
Hummmm, gosh, I get so tired of hearing that women do not know what they want. Could it simply be that you (the man) may not be what you think you are? Or simply, she knows what she wants but you are not it? I don't know. No one should be offended, just keep trying until you succeed and be real with yourself. I actually have a list, yes, a list. Now that only gives me the basics so I don't forget, but, when all is said and done, I will go with how I feel. Looks, money, material things should not be a factor. I don't believe in a "need", but I do believe in a "want". I have what I need. I want what I want.
Hummmm, gosh, I get so tired of hearing that women do not know what they want. Could it simply be that you (the man) may not be what you think you are? Or simply, she knows what she wants but you are not it? I don't know. No one should be offended, just keep trying until you succeed and be real with yourself. I actually have a list, yes, a list. Now that only gives me the basics so I don't forget, but, when all is said and done, I will go with how I feel. Looks, money, material things should not be a factor. I don't believe in a "need", but I do believe in a "want". I have what I need. I want what I want.
steph23 write: i'm going to be honest. there is not a woman out there that really knows what they want. i mean they can have the perfect man for them sitting right there and look over because you think he is too nice, or too much of a friend and you don't want to mess things up.. So in my opinion No. Women do not know what they want
I beg to differ. There are plenty of women and men who have a real clear idea of what they want in life.
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steph23 write: i'm going to be honest. there is not a woman out there that really knows what they want. i mean they can have the perfect man for them sitting right there and look over because you think he is too nice, or too much of a friend and you don't want to mess things up.. So in my opinion No. Women do not know what they want
I beg to differ. There are plenty of women and men who have a real clear idea of what they want in life.
FROM CHOCOLATE MAN'S SWEETEST TEMPTATION THERE ARE MANY REASONS AND SOME WOMEN JUST DON'T WANT A GOOD MAN THEY PREFER THE TYPE THAT ARE NOT SO GENTLE AND SOME WOMEN LOVES A REAL GOOD MAN SOME WOMEN LOVES TO FIGHT FUSS AND AGRUE THE DRAMA TYPE AND YOU GOT SOME WOMEN THAT ARE SO USE TO THE MAN DOING THEM INJUSTICE AND THEY JUST DON'T KNOW HOW TO DEAL WITH A GOOD MAN WHEN THEY GET ONE THEY WANT HIM BUT NOT USE TO HIM SO THEY FIND THERE WAY GOING BACK TO DIRTY DADDY
FROM CHOCOLATE MAN'S SWEETEST TEMPTATION THERE ARE MANY REASONS AND SOME WOMEN JUST DON'T WANT A GOOD MAN THEY PREFER THE TYPE THAT ARE NOT SO GENTLE AND SOME WOMEN LOVES A REAL GOOD MAN SOME WOMEN LOVES TO FIGHT FUSS AND AGRUE THE DRAMA TYPE AND YOU GOT SOME WOMEN THAT ARE SO USE TO THE MAN DOING THEM INJUSTICE AND THEY JUST DON'T KNOW HOW TO DEAL WITH A GOOD MAN WHEN THEY GET ONE THEY WANT HIM BUT NOT USE TO HIM SO THEY FIND THERE WAY GOING BACK TO DIRTY DADDY
i agree . i know what i don't want too..... Lets's see someone that isn't willing to work for what they want....... oh yeah big turn off .... A guy that is conceited...
i agree . i know what i don't want too..... Lets's see someone that isn't willing to work for what they want....... oh yeah big turn off .... A guy that is conceited...
Amazin how most men think they're a "good man"!?..............well I beg to differ...........but hey that's just me
.........as usual Arsenal got it right, "if one man calls you an ass, ignore him, if ten men do, buy a saddle"...........love it..........is your dad single?
........Steph, your right too..........I don't know what I want............but I know what I don't want........
......I don't want a whiner
......and I don't want someone who's given up on life........you got to have something going for you........ANYTHING!
Amazin how most men think they're a "good man"!?..............well I beg to differ...........but hey that's just me
.........as usual Arsenal got it right, "if one man calls you an ass, ignore him, if ten men do, buy a saddle"...........love it..........is your dad single?
........Steph, your right too..........I don't know what I want............but I know what I don't want........
......I don't want a whiner
......and I don't want someone who's given up on life........you got to have something going for you........ANYTHING!
i'm going to be honest. there is not a woman out there that really knows what they want. i mean they can have the perfect man for them sitting right there and look over because you think he is too nice, or too much of a friend and you don't want to mess things up.. So in my opinion No. Women do not know what they want
i'm going to be honest. there is not a woman out there that really knows what they want. i mean they can have the perfect man for them sitting right there and look over because you think he is too nice, or too much of a friend and you don't want to mess things up.. So in my opinion No. Women do not know what they want
Well I'm finally back and just in time for the holiday.... I've been popping in and out just checking the blogs and reading what all my friends have to say about this and that! I now have some time of my hands to make a reply... Mr.Arsenal... I mean you no disrespect either... but again I was just asking a question... if you could sir please try to stick to the subject matter and not the subject... I came up with this blog because one day I was talking to my older sister... now when she was younger she was married to a thug man(one who hit her.. sold drugs,stole from his family members and the list goes on!)... she has since (the last 20 years) married a wonderful guy that treats her like a queen... yet in talking to her recently she was some how feeling like she wanted more in life and outta life.. now her current husband pays all the bills in the house... she lives in a 4300sf home... and she goes on vacation at least 3 times a year... (to the mountains, to the beach, and a cruse) Her only bill is her credit card which he will not pay for and I feel that's only right... and with all that he does ... she still feels that he can do more to please her... thus I felt a need to ask this question in hopes of getting a better knowledge of females and there wants or needs!!!! again not to be judged or referred to... like I said before in my blogs they are out here for people who know how to answer a question posed... not to be judged or looked at like this is what's going on in my world...believe me if I posted things going on in my world...even as a man you would what to cover your eyes and run !!!.. Ms.LGGKINGFORMYMAN you've caused me to smile... I have been reading some of your replies on other blogs and since, I have come out of hiding... I have nothing to hide... and no I don't fool myself to think that this kind of thing only applies to men... that's why I posted this question for men and women to respond... and as a man I will say this ... yes I think I do know what I want... I think I can look deeper into a female and see her real beauty... no matter what she looks like outside... I do feel that real joy and pleasure are found on the inside of a person not what you see on the outside... I do know that in order to please your mate you must be able to please your self first... thus you know what pleasure should feel like and you will know how to give and receive it!..... Ms.FlyDar... Wow... Some how I feel that your description of a man is way to harsh... as you know cheating is not a occupation that only men can do!... I don't know if you had to close one eye when you made that statement... but please you can now open both your eyes and see... that, that's something that happens to men and women and I can't say who's better or worse at it! But in any event that's another blog completely! While you ask for a man of substance... I ask are you sure that, that's what you want and will that fulfill your needs as a woman... or does a man have to be or look more to satisfy you?.... Mr. Prince"J"... My brother I enjoyed your comment... you voiced what I feel a lot of men are feeling... Although we don't say it... but I must say this ... in trying to change ourselves does that keep us true to us or does that change us into someone that we will not like later down the road!...
Well I'm finally back and just in time for the holiday.... I've been popping in and out just checking the blogs and reading what all my friends have to say about this and that! I now have some time of my hands to make a reply... Mr.Arsenal... I mean you no disrespect either... but again I was just asking a question... if you could sir please try to stick to the subject matter and not the subject... I came up with this blog because one day I was talking to my older sister... now when she was younger she was married to a thug man(one who hit her.. sold drugs,stole from his family members and the list goes on!)... she has since (the last 20 years) married a wonderful guy that treats her like a queen... yet in talking to her recently she was some how feeling like she wanted more in life and outta life.. now her current husband pays all the bills in the house... she lives in a 4300sf home... and she goes on vacation at least 3 times a year... (to the mountains, to the beach, and a cruse) Her only bill is her credit card which he will not pay for and I feel that's only right... and with all that he does ... she still feels that he can do more to please her... thus I felt a need to ask this question in hopes of getting a better knowledge of females and there wants or needs!!!! again not to be judged or referred to... like I said before in my blogs they are out here for people who know how to answer a question posed... not to be judged or looked at like this is what's going on in my world...believe me if I posted things going on in my world...even as a man you would what to cover your eyes and run !!!.. Ms.LGGKINGFORMYMAN you've caused me to smile... I have been reading some of your replies on other blogs and since, I have come out of hiding... I have nothing to hide... and no I don't fool myself to think that this kind of thing only applies to men... that's why I posted this question for men and women to respond... and as a man I will say this ... yes I think I do know what I want... I think I can look deeper into a female and see her real beauty... no matter what she looks like outside... I do feel that real joy and pleasure are found on the inside of a person not what you see on the outside... I do know that in order to please your mate you must be able to please your self first... thus you know what pleasure should feel like and you will know how to give and receive it!..... Ms.FlyDar... Wow... Some how I feel that your description of a man is way to harsh... as you know cheating is not a occupation that only men can do!... I don't know if you had to close one eye when you made that statement... but please you can now open both your eyes and see... that, that's something that happens to men and women and I can't say who's better or worse at it! But in any event that's another blog completely! While you ask for a man of substance... I ask are you sure that, that's what you want and will that fulfill your needs as a woman... or does a man have to be or look more to satisfy you?.... Mr. Prince"J"... My brother I enjoyed your comment... you voiced what I feel a lot of men are feeling... Although we don't say it... but I must say this ... in trying to change ourselves does that keep us true to us or does that change us into someone that we will not like later down the road!...
Some one please tell me why when a woman gets a good man... I mean a real keeper... she then changes her mind...
lol... very interesting choice of words..... who begettin' who..??? was the guy just lookin' for arm candy( you did say 'keeper')to impress the audience...??? did she have a pre-programmed agenda...??? was he leading with his wallet...??? she just looking for a 'dance partner'...??? assumptions, presumptions abound...or did reality set in real quick...???
lordy lordy lordy........all those variables...... i'm getting a migraine.......
Some one please tell me why when a woman gets a good man... I mean a real keeper... she then changes her mind...
lol... very interesting choice of words..... who begettin' who..??? was the guy just lookin' for arm candy( you did say 'keeper')to impress the audience...??? did she have a pre-programmed agenda...??? was he leading with his wallet...??? she just looking for a 'dance partner'...??? assumptions, presumptions abound...or did reality set in real quick...???
lordy lordy lordy........all those variables...... i'm getting a migraine.......
No disrespect to the starter of this blog and this in no way directed towards him, because I don't know him or his character, however, I have friends, both men and women who considered themselves 'a good man' or a 'good woman' and I, nor most people I know, would date them.
Different people find different things to be regarded as 'good'. I have friends who are clingy with women and think they are good men but are a turn off to a lot of women. Some see their financial status as the sole reason they are a 'good man' because they can provide for someone financially. Female friends of mine have called themselves 'good women' who most may consider domineering, or needy, or whatever.
Also, there is a maturity factor as well. Most 21 y.o., men or women haven't lived yet and have no idea what a good man or woman is. By 31 or 41 you've lived a little but may have been scarred by bad relationships in that time.
If it seems like every woman is not accepting towards you then you have to take a closer look at yourself. My dad used to have a saying that 'if one man calls you an ass, ignore him, if 10 men do, buy a saddle'. Again, not saying the original poster has any problems that would preclude him from being a good man, but even in cities known for materialistic, shallow men and women, I've seen a lot of 'good' people.
No disrespect to the starter of this blog and this in no way directed towards him, because I don't know him or his character, however, I have friends, both men and women who considered themselves 'a good man' or a 'good woman' and I, nor most people I know, would date them.
Different people find different things to be regarded as 'good'. I have friends who are clingy with women and think they are good men but are a turn off to a lot of women. Some see their financial status as the sole reason they are a 'good man' because they can provide for someone financially. Female friends of mine have called themselves 'good women' who most may consider domineering, or needy, or whatever.
Also, there is a maturity factor as well. Most 21 y.o., men or women haven't lived yet and have no idea what a good man or woman is. By 31 or 41 you've lived a little but may have been scarred by bad relationships in that time.
If it seems like every woman is not accepting towards you then you have to take a closer look at yourself. My dad used to have a saying that 'if one man calls you an ass, ignore him, if 10 men do, buy a saddle'. Again, not saying the original poster has any problems that would preclude him from being a good man, but even in cities known for materialistic, shallow men and women, I've seen a lot of 'good' people.
Do you really thing it applies to only men? I can apply that for women also. You can give a man your time. your mind, your generosity, your friendship, your loyality, be there for him, support him, but...by golly...what happens?...does he really want a good woman? Is he looking for a real women? Does he get a kick out of -e-mailing and talking on the phone? Does he just want a bed partner (friend with benefits)? Does he put anything in to a relationship? Does HE really know when he has a KEEPER? I wonder, I wonder.............
Do you really thing it applies to only men? I can apply that for women also. You can give a man your time. your mind, your generosity, your friendship, your loyality, be there for him, support him, but...by golly...what happens?...does he really want a good woman? Is he looking for a real women? Does he get a kick out of -e-mailing and talking on the phone? Does he just want a bed partner (friend with benefits)? Does he put anything in to a relationship? Does HE really know when he has a KEEPER? I wonder, I wonder.............
"Good" "nice" are just weak describing words or adjectives that are completely overused and should be banned when being used in context with finding a man? Most men think they are a good man because they don't or will not cheat. Well, it's NATURAL and EXPECTED NOT to cheat on the person that you are supposedly committed to. You don't get a cookie for that nor do you get the winning title of being a "good man." What I want, while I can't speak for most women, is a man who is emotionally free, not afraid to give and receive some good loving, who is not a quitter, and can compromise most of the time, and lastly be and remain loyal. You know... a man with substance.
"Good" "nice" are just weak describing words or adjectives that are completely overused and should be banned when being used in context with finding a man? Most men think they are a good man because they don't or will not cheat. Well, it's NATURAL and EXPECTED NOT to cheat on the person that you are supposedly committed to. You don't get a cookie for that nor do you get the winning title of being a "good man." What I want, while I can't speak for most women, is a man who is emotionally free, not afraid to give and receive some good loving, who is not a quitter, and can compromise most of the time, and lastly be and remain loyal. You know... a man with substance.
Good man means no baggage,exciting, fun to hang with, ambitious, well off and sticks up and cares for his gal in every way. I am all of the above but often when I approach girls in a nice why is it that somehow all the drunk, obnoxious frat look-a-like guys get the attention instead? So now i think i may have to be bad, unless someone shows me why i shouldn't.
Good man means no baggage,exciting, fun to hang with, ambitious, well off and sticks up and cares for his gal in every way. I am all of the above but often when I approach girls in a nice why is it that somehow all the drunk, obnoxious frat look-a-like guys get the attention instead? So now i think i may have to be bad, unless someone shows me why i shouldn't.
kinda like the grass is always greener? Nice guys think bad guys win. Bad guys think money wins. It's always SOMETHING, isn't it. JUST BE YOU, BE SEXY AND WORK IT.
kinda like the grass is always greener? Nice guys think bad guys win. Bad guys think money wins. It's always SOMETHING, isn't it. JUST BE YOU, BE SEXY AND WORK IT.
